Ask Zo : She's pregnant

Ask Zo : She's pregnant - What next?

As promised, I will be doing an ASK ZO posting once/twice per month to provide light, and direction to the lost, confused, or questioned viewers. I've received 3 emails so far and without further delay:

Dear Zo:
I am a 19 year old black man living in Montgomery, Alabama. I am a freshman in college and I am a former football star. I have been dating the same girl since 9th grade and I love her a lot. She recently told me that she is 8 weeks pregnant and I almost died. I have not told anyone and I don't not know how to? Help your boy out.

Thanks,
FootballDadtoBe

Dear FootballDadtoBe,

Bruh, this is some serious shit. I want to first thank you for being a fateful reader of TheRealZo.com - I appreciate all of my followers and will help anyway that I can. You stated that you love this girl. I'll assume that both of you are young. A baby is a blessing, planned or unplanned. I urge you to seek the assistance of your family. You are a success in the making because you've chosen to further your education. KEEP THAT! Once you have your degree - NO ONE can take it from you! You may have to sacrifice to make this work, but anything worth having is worth working for. I urge you and your girl to be a ROCK right now. It is going to be tough, but it looks like you two have been together and that's a real bond. Brace yourself! Everyone is not going to be about this, you're under 21, and trying to further your education. PEOPLE will expect the worst from you - DONT GIVE IT TO THEM! Work harder for your betterment! I wish you peace, blessings and success. Keep you posted on the baby.

Respectfully,
Zo

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