The Experience

Classy, Chic, Sophisticated, Simple

Have you every met someone that just adds that certain, "I'm all about it" to your life? Dinner, drinks, and a little cozy movie night does the trick. Simplicity at it's very best adds that lacking void of substance needed to make your weekend worthwhile. We fucking? Nah, not yet, we're holding off because love making is what's in the forecast. You have to play by the rules of the game. Everybody knows that if you are ONLY a hook-up or a beat session, everything will be short-lived. There will be a no emotion, so you are just having sex. There will be no call tomorrow, because I got what I needed tonight. Don't call me boo or baye, cause I don't get down that way. We just fucking 'round. The truth is, you must desire more for your life. Don't accept zero for 100, especially when you are a qualified boss! Start out with conversation over drinks or coffee. Progress to dinner and a movie. Later, evolve into home visits that include cuffing. Th...

In Basque, Zorion means happy. When do people recognize or realize when you are happy? Must you go around in a frantic rant screaming to the top of your lungs, "Hey look at me, I'm happy"? What about offering advice on something that's clearly new to you, happiness? Regardless of your method, as humans, we long for affection, excitement, and the desire to be wanted. When we find that special person that wants us, we basque in the ambiance of love and endless possibilities. We over indulge until our girl or guy says, "Well damn, that was EASY." Now there's nothing wrong with spending quality time, but damn - don't smother your new found interest. He/she will leave faster than you can count to 5. Labels: Is that your girlfriend? Is that your boyfriend? You two just fucking round? The problem with our relationships is that we place a strong emphasis on titles. We do this because we need that title to belong. We want to be able to verbalize to our fri...

I’m from a place where the corn bread is sweet, but the tea is sweeter. “Hugging yo neck” isn’t uncommon and leaving momma’s house with a plate of food is a requirement! I’m talking about good baked mac & cheese that’s slightly toasted on top, chicken fried to perfection, and greens that u can smell a mile a way. Let’s not forget going 2 church as a right of passage to come home! Proud of my upbringing! #proudsouthernern

I am a strong believer in the sacrifices that we make today ease the questions and fears of tomorrow. I won't stop running until the race is won! Worry not about the decisions that I've made, applaud the decisions that I chose NOT to make. Thanks. #management

I have never been an advocate of the signs and all of that type stuff, but I read through this magazine tonight and it really described some things that really spoke to me. If you are a Libra.. This may be for you. If not, think of me and smile. Libra: The minute you laid eyes on this guy/girl you were instantly in love. However you want it all for yourself, and you're jealous of other in his/her life. This type of possessiveness borders on obsession, and is intensely unhealthy. He/She will notice once he/she starts suffocating, and then you may lose control of this situation. Be proactive. Step Back. Watch. Listen. There is nothing wrong with taking it slow. It's typically always better. Think about that thing. I'm not one to follow the signs or to read heavily into it, but this sure does describe a situation that is or will be on the table. Until next post, take care of yourselves and other. God Bless.

___________ I do not claim to be a singer, but this was something that I just wanted to do. I hope that it is taken well. If not, oh well! Haha. Thanks for tuning into the experience.

Greetings Followers, I was looking at my timeline on Twitter when a quote from Dr. Maya Angelou popped up. I've heard the quote a few times, but it did not phase me then, as it did today. People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. - Dr. Maya Angelou I went into thought about that. I thought about my interactions with people. I analyzed it as it relates to my life and I came up with a quote of my own. "Think about the people that matter today, that mattered 5 years ago and those that will matter 5 years from now. Get the picture?" - Zo Ross It amazes me on what a big part interaction plays on society and growth. Think about when you played in your high school band and you were competing for first chair. Who supported you? Who made you feel like you could do it? Why did you want it? Why was it so necessary that you got it? Was it the reactions from your peer? Was it the fame and responsib...

------ Followers, Speaking with a my mentor today we came to the conclusion that I needed to GET my HAPPY back! I heard some of the best news ever today and it was void and without substance. I didn't know why. I needed to get back to ME. Here it is, my 1st LOVE - GOD! Songs like this helped me get over. I need to visit a church like this really soon.

-------- Followers, Today is all about loving who's on the other side of the mirror! YOU! I am a strong believer that you have not LIVED until you LOVE yourself! As Africans in this country, we were always forced to believe that black was whack and ugly! I beg to differ. Embrace our differences. "The Experience" teaches that we bleed all different shades of brown. Be it khaki, medium or dark - we share the same struggles. Love your brothers and sisters. We need one another. There's a reason why I have not cut these locks of truth from my roots since November of 2008. I believe in my heritage and future. Conformity is so overrated! If you fail to get compliments often, start your day off with a compliment to yourself. If you do not recognize your worth - who else will? I believe that the power of life and death exist within your tongue! So LIVE! You must speak positivity into existence. If you want to be a scholar, first start off by believing it yourself. If yo...

-------- The Experience Promo Vid. Zo

Followers, I want to thank you all for being apart of my movement. There is not very many young black men from the South that blog as I do. In recent times, it is not popular to have an Alpha male mentality with gentlemanly appeal. I write with emotion, purpose, intellegence, focus, charisma, love and determination. My purpose is capture the reader that would not ordinarily read. I want to motivate the kid that is not easily motivated. I want to do something to touch the lives of each of my readers. Remember that after each post you read. The Experience: You enter a room and the people end their tasks and instantly gaze at you! They rush over to you anxiously anticipating what you're going to say. Your conversation and mannerisms are well polished with the very best of what the American educational system has to offer. The content of your conversation flows over a large array of topics and interests. Your dialect reeks of Southern persuasion. Your skin bleeds all shades of bro...

_______ LYRICS: I heard That you're settled down That you Found a girl And you're Married now I heard That your dreams came true. Guess she gave you things I didn't give to you Old friend Why are you so shy? Ain't like you to hold back Or hide from the light I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited But I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it. I had hoped you'd see my face and that you'd be reminded That for me it isn't over Never mind I'll find someone like you I wish nothing but the best for you too "Don't forget me", I begged "I'll remember", you said "Sometimes it lasts in love But sometimes it hurts instead." Sometimes it lasts in love But sometimes it hurts instead, Yeah. You know how the time flies Only yesterday It was the time of our lives We were born and raised In a summer haze Bound by the surprise Of our glory days I hate to turn up out of the b...

------- Let me entertain this real quick...Im typically not the type to sit around a play it, but in the words of Monica, FOR YOU, I WILL . If there is a doubt in your mind or a mere inkling of an unfriendly gesture from me, I apologize. I am in no way opposed to whatever or whoever you are doing. Best wishes. I think I was done, before the thing even began. LOL. You already know my name and I approve this message. Pardon me followers, this message is for one of my avid readers. In case you were wondering - this is the proper way to affix your seal of approval. #movingon - Management

If you found out that your girl was having an affair with another woman would you take her back? According to yourtango.com , studies suggest that 50% of men said YES! On the flip side, men that found out that their girl was having an affair with another man - ONLY 22% would take her back? What's the difference? I read into this with the thought that many men fantasize about having a sexual experience with two women at a time. The problem is, we live in a society where bisexual, gay and anything against the normal is looked down upon. Sexual exhibition, however is on the rise. If you do not believe me - go to Atlanta, Miami, Chicago, DC or any other well populated metropolitan area and see for yourself. Women that were in the study provided a difference in opinion. Women said that they were highly UNLIKELY to stay with a man that cheated same-sex. Only 21% concluded that they would stay. Men, of several different standards have been coached into being the sex-crazed, womaniz...

It was two weeks ago when we found out that the jazzy, sultry singer, Amy Whinehouse was found dead in her North London home. Reports say that her $4 million home in Camden will house the Amy Whinehouse foundation. Amy's parents plan to convert her home into a home to help children in need according to reports. The foundation is going to help thousands of people. That is Amy's legacy," Amy's father, Mitch Winehouse, tweeted Wednesday. Amy Winehouse's death is still unknown. It is still being determined, pending toxicology results. Rest in Peace Amy Whinehouse! (People.com/Associated Press.com) Zo

Followers, I woke up this morning a little down. This is not my usual, but I knew that there was a word waiting for me. There was a message to encourage me. There was something to PUSH me into the day. I bring so much love, laughter, joy, excitement, talent, and thrills to the lives of several daily. I have purpose and I wanted to walk in it today. There are times when we feel like we have the weight of the world on our shoulders. We have one person depending on us for this, the other for that. We have to focus on life and living for ourselves first. Often times, we get lost in motions. I reached for my book of poetry and read this poem: The Man Who Thinks He Can by Walter Wintle If you think you are beaten, you are. If you think you dare not, you don’t. If you’d like to win but you think you can’t, It’s almost a cinch you won’t. If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost, For out of the world we find Success begins with a fellow’s will - It’s all in the state of mind. I...

Greetings followers, I pray that nothing but success and love is in your path as you are reading this post. Have you ever wanted to wear apparel that said more about "WHO" you are, versus, "WHAT" you are? If yes, then I've found the solution. I consider myself a realist. I'm no rebel, racist nor prude. I'm simply a success-driven, culture conscious, black man! I wanted tee shirts and apparel that spoke to the masses about black empowerment... I found it all at dangerousnegro.com... This company was started by two college grads that had a desire to increase awareness of black intelligence to the masses. The name of the apparel company is dN|Be.... The mission of the line is to promote African culture and the Black Empowerment Movement through positive propaganda. Check them out to learn more (http://www.dangerousnegro.com/pages/about-us). Check them out. You will NOT be disappointed. Zo

Followers, Boy, do I have one for you today? [laughing] Our generation prides ourselves of being technologically savvy and elite to our older counterparts. We can text, swype, voice command, video, picture, email, Facebook, Twitter, etc. If you were to ask half of our parents how to do that they would be eternally confused. I ran across an article that I had to share with you all - let me know... If you had that right female or dude would you choose them or your cell? I'll leave it at that? http://techland.time.com/2011/08/05/one-third-of-americans-would-choose-cellphones-over-sex/ (copy and paste the link) Zo

---------------- This song is really ministering to me right now! If you think this song was posted for you... it was! HAHA! Thanks for following me at the REALZO.COM where you NEVER know what you are going to get! Zo

_________ You asked for it blog followers! Enjoy it! Zo

________ I hope that you enjoyed the video of the Congratulations Letter. I was fun to make. PLEASE don't serve as a PLACEHOLDER for anyone. You're worth sooo much more. God Loves you, and so does Zo! Take care.

______ This is the first installment into my spoken work/poetry efforts. Hope you enjoy.

Congratulations, I got the news that you've found the one that makes your heart smile and makes your days better. I'm happy for you. No, not just because you have what you have longed for, but because you have what I think you need. I was not him. I have somehow I always knew it. I am typically not the one to sit around and stunt it, but I loved you. I love you. And even though we will never be I still want the best for you. So congratulations on finding that. I realize that I served as a placeholder for you while you found who you were looking for. I'll accept that title as your placeholder. I believe that I wore the title well. Don't you think. A re-twist of the locs and nice outfit - I was DATE-ME-READY! I was never your man, not really even fuck friends, but I was that damn placeholder so an angry placeholder I will be. I'm sending you my congratulations because I am not the type that sits, mopes, and player hates it - I'm the one that analyzes the ...

The most intimate, romantic, graceful, relaxing thing for me to do is enjoy a plate of fruit and a glass of wine. If one were to ever go into my kitchen and find particles of fruit and an empty wine glass - One could rest assured that Zo has had a good night. Another thing that I am classic for is thinking. I find a corner or a chair and think. Usually I am able to come up with some profound conclusions. Ever heard a song and it was COMPLETELY about a situation that you were in. Thanks Bey for Best Thing I Never Had. I consider myself a realist. If I can see it, then it is so. If I can touch it, then it does so. I believe that I am a unique man with a sixth sense. I can EFFORTLESSLY recognize bullshit. When someone is sharing a story, and I get a twitch in my brain - it's usually bullshit. When some one calls and says, "Yea, Shae um.. I was gonna come through, but shit came up" - you guessed it. That was bullshit too. Having this sixth sense has proven to be to my advan...

This song reminds me of a time in my life where I didn't know where I was going or who I was. All NIGHT!

Sitting on the Dock of the Bay It never ceases to amaze me how well I have transitioned into my own. I have grown into what I regard as a respectable young man. I do not steal. I am a hard worker. I do not cheat and to my knowledge I am the definition of what a positive contributor to society should be. IF all of the above is true - why do I find myself so empty sometimes? I have done a few analysis as to why this is so. I do not get a strong opportunity to think. I spend so much time focusing on things that are irrelevant. My job gets a good bulk of my attention. Being a new professional, I am in a phase of molding. Not only as an individual, but as a man as well. I am yet single. I have had my share of positive people in my life, but greed has detoured me from making that next step. I have even been on the verge of proposal. Some call it cold feet, I call it differences of opinion. It would be easy if I saw a perfect picture of a relationship. I have not. On this day, I was ...

Friends! How many of us have them? I have made posts about this from time to time. I typically do when people disturb my chi or interrupts my day with nothingness. Today, I am posting with my take on the so-called characters called friends. Friends? I have maybe one or two. Friends are nonjudgmental, helpful, loving, secret-keeping, entertaining, strong willed individuals that you have in your life. Friends are not leeches that call only when they need to borrow a twenty or 2. They give more than they receive. Friends give without the desire to get anything in return. Is there an expiration date for friends? No. Good friends will be there for you for a lifelime. I have a VERY good friend that I've been friends with since I was in 2nd grade - over 16 years ago. We are still together. Yea, as with anyone we get pissed off at one another. We argue. We fight, but at the end of the day we are still on one another's teams. Moral of this post is - if you have a good friend (the...

Hey Faithful Followers and Friends, One thing that remains constant in my life and that is the power of recovery. I have been so quick to recover in the past. I have been talked about, lied on, accused, and mistreated. I have ALWAYS recovered from it all. I do not want to imply that I have always been the victim... That is not true. I will say that in everything, I have never wronged anyone. This has been the HARDEST thing to recover from. If I tell you that the sky is blue and the sky is grey - correct me. I will accept my wrongs, but one thing that I fail to understand is why are I always pushed to the back burner in people's lives. I listened to Adele's Chasing Pavements. This song spoke to my soul. She said, "Should I give up or should I just keep chasing pavements even if it leads no where." I find myself in that same struggle. I have made valid attempts to give up, move on and date again. I am trying now. They are not her! Sister told me to just NEVER let ...

Who's more important to you than you?

Dear followers, I apologize if I have not held up my agreement and wrote as I normally would have. The truth is, my personal life is not where it should be. I have met a really nice friend, but I am so hung-up on my past relationship that it has been difficult to move forward. This too shall pass, but in the mean time - I'm just doing Zo. Pray for me and I pray for all of you. Zo

No one asked you to care. No one asked you to wait. I feel like a dumb ass, told my prospects to wait. Stop your smiling, shit's clearly not that cool. And before we continue, I heard about ole dude. I ain't even mad, cause class? He don't have. He will never be appear, aspire, or dream to be me. I will forever remember that stupid day. Shit plays over in my mind. You came over so genuine and in your eyes, you were so kind. In actuality it was a front. You do shit like that to get what you want. A way out. You're selfish, self-centered, and full of shit. I've never disrespected you - even when you acted like a bitch. I too, have learned a very valuable lesson. It'll be a long time before I'm EVER in this situation. Again, maybe a friend would come at me the right way. May listen and even feel what I have to say. Again I reiterate... No one asked you to care. No one asked you to wait. Zo

It's NOT real to them, so why do WE make it real to us? Think about it! Zo

Laying on the futon, I am wondering who's going to make this first move. If I do, or if you, you told me its cool. Where have you been? Its been months since I had some of this. I'll be right back too much wine, Gotta take a piss. It's said that a lady should NEVER suck dick, but in bed, there has never been anything wrong with giving good head. After a few moments of passion and pleasure I'm wishing on a star that this is a reoccurring session. Pleasure is a measure of your passion Zo

As promised, I will be doing an ASK ZO posting once/twice per month to provide light, and direction to the lost, confused, or questioned viewers. I've received 3 emails so far and without further delay: Dear Zo: I am a 19 year old black man living in Montgomery, Alabama. I am a freshman in college and I am a former football star. I have been dating the same girl since 9th grade and I love her a lot. She recently told me that she is 8 weeks pregnant and I almost died. I have not told anyone and I don't not know how to? Help your boy out. Thanks, FootballDadtoBe Dear FootballDadtoBe, Bruh, this is some serious shit. I want to first thank you for being a fateful reader of TheRealZo.com - I appreciate all of my followers and will help anyway that I can. You stated that you love this girl. I'll assume that both of you are young. A baby is a blessing, planned or unplanned. I urge you to seek the assistance of your family. You are a success in the making because you...

Last night I was hanging with some friends of mine. It was like any other night that we would get together and go out to have a good time, except something was different. I was not immediately sure what it was - but something was lurking in the air. We went to the club. We saw some of the same people that we usually see, there was no variance. Something in the atmosphere was different. The conversation was the same, filled with cackles and mess. The people were the same, some a little sicker, older, and less intelligent - but that is to be expected. Ultimately - I realized what was different. ME! I am no longer interested in the simplicities of everything. I aspire for more. I deserve more, and until I get what I deserve - I will just sit here, happy content and by myself (in the happiest capacity that I can). I cannot point out the exact moment when I realized that I was content with my inner me. I look in the same mirror on the wall everyday and see the same Zo. Today, something...

You can not truly be happy living in the low. People may not see your sin, but GOD does This message was delivered at St. Matthew Baptist Church, Macon, Georgia Zo

Hello faithful followers of therealzo.com. I want to thank you for taking the opportunity to stop by and show your boy a little love today. I just wanted to enlighten you on a little about my blog site. As the description says, "... Get ready for the ultimate reader experience. Here, there are no boundaries," I will promise you just that. You will get the very best in inspiration, motivation, conversation, education, and relations. I PROMISE to devote my 2 cents on every aspect of what's happening around me. Ask Zo: One of my favorite followers, Janelle Adams from Atlanta wrote me last week and requested that I start doing a monthly life's lessons advice postings. She told me how much she enjoyed reading my story and how she looks forward to my posting. Thanks Janelle! I will be implementing an "Ask Zo" posting at least once per month. I am asking that you submit your questions, comments, and concerns to me at zo7@mail.com . Allow me 2-3 days to get b...

Apparently Miss NeNe Leaks won't be on the Celebrity Apprentice for long according to mediatakeout.com. Snitches say that she and my girl, Starr Jones got into a big diva brawl and NeNe walks off stage, hops in a cab, and does not return. I guess we will see. While we're on the topic of housewives, my favorite is Phaedra Parks. Such class, poise, and education. Three very sexy elements that I find in several southern women. I wonder how, she, Aiden, and husband, Apollo are doing these days. I guess we will have to wait until next season and see. o_O Zo

Have you ever been interested, but afraid to step out on faith? What about the comfortable state of being single and not looking? Really, me too, but it's 2011... So let's do something that we've never done before? Because I'm interested Can I be an instrument In changing your life Is that alright? Because I'm interested I'd rather be with you instead Of anyone else - India Arie It was so ironic that as soon as I turned on my Pandora, this song came on. As of late, I catch a particular pair of eyes as I am sitting in my cubicle at work. The eyes walk in, glance over at me, smile and continues up the stairs. Initially, I didn't pay it too much mind considering I am an attractive fellow or at least I think so. I mean, I am decently groomed, immaculately versed, cute smile, nappy locs, and I dress ok. So I could see where I would catch an eye or two every now and then. The thing is, I wasn't looking for anyone right now. I mean, I just got out o...

I refuse to write yet another love story and be labeled as a writer with lovely thoughts about happiness a bliss. I would prefer to be that brother that writes of truth, the other side, the side less read or shall I say TALKED about because it is less desirable material. No fuck that. I can tell I lost a few of you with that last sentence - so let's try it again. I would prefer to keep it real with the ugly than MAC make-up the FACE you want to see. Or better yet, paint a picture of the most beautiful relic on God's green earth. I'm real whether directly or indirectly. Intelligence is earned, it is free and costs you nothing to obtain. GET SOME! If you read hard enough you'll feel my pain and my intentions and my story. My intentions are not to confuse you, yet USE you to think harder than you thought the day before. I'll be your therapist, come on in. It's here - all right here, you just have to open your mind and receive it. The funny thing about words is t...

Believes that CLASS is not inherited, purchased, leased, or borrowed - it's EARNED! Once you have acquired it, it's the actions thereafter that validate you having it. The funny thing is, it can take a lifetime to gain and only a second to loose and then be labeled as TRASH! Moral? Always keep it cute.

You can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you do not want to feel Many times people close their eyes to the obvious. It is easy, all you have to do is close your eyes and ignore what is right in front of you. It is impossible for you to close that thing in your chest - your heart. Regardless of the circumstance, you cannot change the way you feel. Impossible.

Are you Living or Simply Existing? You decide. You are only given one chance. You are only given one life. Live it to the fullest. Existing is existing in the simplest state of being. Matter simply exist. Nothing is affected if it moves or if it remains in a constant state. You have the potential to LIVE, so I urge and encourage you to do so!

Help those that have helped you! God will bless you for it! Zo

Have you ever wondered who you will spend eternity with? What about the one that will scratch your back when you can't reach it. Or what about that one that will take care of that ooowee at 2 am when you have a different type of itch that needs scratching? Right for those of us that are in our "twenty-somethings," we think about that thang. The reality of it is - as human, we long to be loved, desired, needed, cared for, and craved. I say craved not in the literal sense, but I believe you feel me. Have you met your soul mate? Did you meet him or her in the coffee shop and because of your circumstances at the time, you brushed them off. Or maybe you met your soul mate after church and discovered that she or he is all you've ever dreamed of. After your alarm clock begins to buzz, you wake, pray and this person is the first that comes to mind. Yea, that one. What about for the rest of the population that will never know what it feels to have that true love, that Sund...

Hello followers, I am coming to you on tonight with a message of inspiration and of happy. People are in the business to destroy your Happy. I have found this to be true because for the first time in history, people are content with causing havoc and dismay. It is almost as if they gain a personal enjoyment from torturing others with lies, evils, and jealousy. I have a solution to this friends: Get your Happy back! If you've been down, you've been depressed - forget all of the rest and escape to that happy place. The Happy is your for the taking. If they have done you wrong, they will NEVER know until you tell them. SPEAK up! Embrace life and contribute for the good of you. I am going to see you in the streets and ask, Sir/Ma'am (You know I will), where is your Happy? I want you to share your discoveries with me as soon as you do. I want you to tell me of the journey from shit to sugar and we'll laugh and say ain't that alright! You can have this one for fre...

"When one door closes, TWO open! The power of choice!"

Lessons have been learned and there are a number of things I will do differently next time.

I think if I have another episode of this shit - I'm simply going to quit. I think one of the funniest things about life and love is sex and conversation. Or not even sex, but extreme intimacy. What if one was to go their entire lives lacking intimacy? To never know what it would feel like to simply explode into an oasis of bliss and latex. That shit must be for the birds because I know NOW that that guy aint me. Like television, I must need to change the channel. I'm tired of this show. Everything seems like a rerun. It's so interesting at first, but after a moment or so - it gets boring. Either myself of the show looses interest. I stop picking up the remote, stop paying the bill, and the cable is then off. Once the cable is off - so goes the communication. I can't believe that I'm still watching this show. Since August of 2009 I've been watching this same show. Nothing has changed. The story line is still the same. Nothing about a guy with commitment prob...

As I sit here at 2:55 am listening to Neither One of Us by Gladys, I can remember our first date it was a Sat'day. It was so original. Nothing fancy, just a movie and dessert after. That was three years ago and neither one of us could imagine being where we are today. You are my best friend... I can honestly say that no one has impacted my life quite like you have. You came in, cleaned up shop, cleaned me up, cleaned up my act, made me a better me and resumed residency in my heart. You accepted me without apologies. You didn't need too many complex explanations, nor did you seek them. You just wanted me. I think that's the hardest thing for me to see. After break-up number 2, I knew that we were threw. I was wrong. We both picked up the pieces of what we could and tried to move on. We exuded the characteristics of the perfect relationship - both happy and madly in love. A love that was mended. We both were hurting, but we found it was convenient to go on hurting and pret...

As clear as glass I realize that everything that is to be will be. For the life of me, I am trying to put reason with why it all fell apart. The letter goes like this.... Hey baby, How was work today? I hope they didn't work my baby too hard. Babe, I have had some kind of day. I'm tired, I've worked 5 days straight and to be perfectly honest - I need a break. I know that I usually call you when I get off from work, but I've been chat'n with my friends and we've had a lot to talk about. Yea, I know it's been over a week since we've talked, but you know that you still have my heart. No, now don't start thinking that it's all about the ring. It's not that.. It's just that I need time to reflect on me and I'm working on it. Hey baby, what I'm trying to say is I left you too weeks ago - I'm gone, but I haven't told you yet. Zo

Ministers attack billboard depicting gay black men in church (ChicagoPride.com : Albany, N.Y. News) So what do you think about this? Is gay in church ok? Is this what we're moving to? Should American finally become tolerant of this silent community? Is this the voice of reason? Zo

Zo on Hook-ups: I am the last person to comment on such a risqué topic, but I will put my two cents in. As far as my viewpoint is concerned – I am what one would call a Conservative Liberal. I know. I know it sounds like an oxymoron, but that is who I am. In my 24 years, I cannot say that I have been a Saint the entire ride. Hell I cannot even say that I have been modest in my happenings. There is one thing that I can say: If firemen wear rubbers… So do I! I have no children. I have no known STDs. I am no longer riding the thin line or choosing to play with my life – I am SO serious about taking a pledge to stop having. Ok – well I will save my reasoning for another day. Young people, please hear me out about this hook-up thing though. Ok, you meet this interesting girl or guy online – whatever you prefer. He or She seems nice, good conversation, attractive smile, credentials, and hot. The two of you move from the World Wide Web and start sexting (or texting for my more mature audi...

I have simply decided to take a hiatus from my own personal life. Until I figure out what I want out of life – I will not be happy. Looking back at my 3 relationships, everyone wanted something different. Shannon wanted to try something new – me. Taneshia wanted a continuous hook-up – me. Ana wants a husband – the verdict is still out on that one. One thing is for certain; I have tried to be consistent with everyone. I try to be genuine, reliable, resourceful, and loving. Hint: PLEASE catch the “try to be” in the last sentence. I believe that I do ok – I mean, please keep in mind that I am human. Zo on Wisdom: It is 2011. I will be 25 years old in October. I cannot believe how fast the time has flown. I believe that I have matured a lot, but I have so far to go. As quoted by one of my good friends a few weeks ago, “Baby, you haven’t lived until you turn 30. You’ll see the whole world in a different light.” I love those words of wisdom, but I do not believe that I can wait 5 years an...